The problem as I see it, frankly, is that "secular" is too often practised as being "anti-religion" rather than "neutral to religion, ideology and persuasion"--especially amongst South Asians.
Or when self-appointed anti-religion gadflies make it their business to argue against other peoples' faiths, ideologies or persuasions at every available opportunity.
I earnestly wish that more people—on both sides of such—discussions would base their own discussions in matters of state policy, social structure, etc. on what would work with their audience rather than what helps builds they themselves--or strictly on the merits on their case rather than why the other person's point of view is wrong because of what they believe.